I Dismiss the Inevitable and Embrace the Impossible
I Build Heroes and Champions in the Midst of Life’s Darkest Times
I help people divorce differently. I help people divorce with dignity.
It’s just that simple.
Divorce does not HAVE to be about conflict. Spouses do not HAVE to experience anger, resentment and bitterness. The marital estate does not HAVE to be decimated by legal fees. Children do not HAVE to endure unhealthy and unbalanced behavior of parents during divorce.
Former spouses do not HAVE to carry anger for years after the divorce. They are, of course, welcome to it. But it is not inevitable.
All of those are CHOICES. None of those things are inevitable. My purpose is to support clients in embracing what seems to be impossible – a healthy divorce, one where the past stays in the past, children are protected, spouses communicate effectively and with candor and respect, and people move forward with a vision for their future, their very best selves intact and in charge, and an effective and respectful co-parenting relationship going forward. This result is not impossible.
Admittedly, some people achieve this on their own. They sit down at the kitchen table, work out an agreement, and spend a very little money to get it signed by a judge. But they are the exception rather than the rule. All too many spouses cannot communicate effectively and are too entrenched in “divorce positions” to truly explore and negotiate acceptable solutions. People around them become “negative advocates” making real negotiation impossible. Consequently, these spouses stumble into divorce litigation angry, bitter, uncommunicative and uneducated as to all other options.
My purpose is to change that…for everyone. My purpose is to explore all possible options, from re-inventing their marriage instead of divorce to when a client might choose to start dating after a divorce and everything in between. My purpose is to support my clients (in the context of considering or pursuing divorce) in:
• Examining their own thinking
• Recognizing their communication styles and those of their children and spouses
• Taking care of themselves and their children during stressful times
• Considering all options available to them
• Being their very best they can be for themselves and those around them
• Recognizing communication and decision making breakdowns
• Embracing the future
I freely admit this is a tall order. That’s why I’m in business.